SEX AND THE SINGLE CHRISTIAN
What can motivate a Christian who is unmarried not to give into his or her urges for sexual pleasure?
Sexual urges are real, for some it may not be a problem, but for others it’s as antagonising and addictive as heroine would be for one who is addicted. In the “Christian” world, where to admit sexual desires or practices can be considered taboo, many single Christians, both young and old struggle immensely in this area whilst trying to maintain their appearance of chastity.
The want of pleasure motivates us to indulge in sexual acts; can the want of sexual purity override the want of sexual pleasure all of the time or only sometimes? Is it enough to ask God for help? What happens after you’ve just finished prayed and the sexual urges are worse than before? Share with us what works or worked for you. I’m not single anymore but I’ve been through the torment of being a single “devoted Christian” with overwhelming sexual desires and the many challenges that goes along with such. (That’s another topic!!)
Memorizing scripture did not work for me, prayer seemed only temporary, and that super duper strength to do absolutely no wrong, never came in my direction. However, what worked for me is that I had someone who was upfront and real to whom I could TALK and CONFESS. This person never judged or looked at me any differently just because I was professing Christianity. All they simply did was to gently remind me whom I was really hurting when indulging in mostly my premeditated acts. They believed in me more than I believed in myself, that I could be stronger and do a whole lot better. Never once did they doubt my sincerity for Christ and I think that made the biggest impact.
I became accountable to them without absolutely any fear of being judged; this as simple as it seems indeed strengthened my resolve to desire purity more than pleasure.
Believe in someone today, for it really does help them to believe in themselves.
NB. Based on JAMES: 5:17