SEX AND THE SINGLE CHRISTIAN
What can motivate a Christian who is unmarried not to give into his or her urges for sexual pleasure?
Sexual urges are real, for some it may not be a problem, but for others it’s as antagonising and addictive as heroine would be for one who is addicted. In the “Christian” world, where to admit sexual desires or practices can be considered taboo, many single Christians, both young and old struggle immensely in this area whilst trying to maintain their appearance of chastity.
The want of pleasure motivates us to indulge in sexual acts; can the want of sexual purity override the want of sexual pleasure all of the time or only sometimes? Is it enough to ask God for help? What happens after you’ve just finished prayed and the sexual urges are worse than before? Share with us what works or worked for you. I’m not single anymore but I’ve been through the torment of being a single “devoted Christian” with overwhelming sexual desires and the many challenges that goes along with such. (That’s another topic!!)
Memorizing scripture did not work for me, prayer seemed only temporary, and that super duper strength to do absolutely no wrong, never came in my direction. However, what worked for me is that I had someone who was upfront and real to whom I could TALK and CONFESS. This person never judged or looked at me any differently just because I was professing Christianity. All they simply did was to gently remind me whom I was really hurting when indulging in mostly my premeditated acts. They believed in me more than I believed in myself, that I could be stronger and do a whole lot better. Never once did they doubt my sincerity for Christ and I think that made the biggest impact.
I became accountable to them without absolutely any fear of being judged; this as simple as it seems indeed strengthened my resolve to desire purity more than pleasure.
Believe in someone today, for it really does help them to believe in themselves.
NB. Based on JAMES: 5:17
i believe its a really good blog where young christians can talk about stuff that is really bothering them e.g the topic here is Sex and the Single Christian,singles can be real about this stuff and get information on what to do when the pressure is on.
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Thanks for you submission “Called to war,” however, I have a couple questions; what made you recognize the “power component,” and stimulated an appreciation for you self image as being a temple of God? Did this just happen? Was it an experience (Good/Bad)? Was it taught? How can you be certain that “prayer did not help?” Prayer may sometimes seem or appear not to help during a struggle.
This is a great initiative for youth -Kudos to the web design team. This has always been a topic which generates much debate and as a single christian woman I too have battled with my sexual urges. Case in point, we are now being flooded with images, advertisements and enticements during this period of Valentinesmania which play on your desire to be loved and feel loved. Personally, I have found that talking about it with a fellow believer and praying for each other is a great help. I agree with comments made that our bodies are to be seen as temples of God, but the human mind (with much assistance from the Enemy) has a way of casting you back to times when your body was far away from this ideal. Not that you were promiscuous but you liked too be pleasured!!! So prayer and drowning yourself in the Word works but for me I have to share my feelings with friends who can interceed for me and talking helps to release the guilt. Never ask God to remove your sexual urges, but ask Him to help you control them until such a time when you are able to release your energies on the marital spouse God provides with. Hang in there singles!!
of course the power component did not just happen it came out of an experience pleasureable and bad. Sex was a valuable tool in which i could get what I wanted, the promise of sex more so. I was not a believer at all when i realised how powerful sex is. i was raised in a christian home but God had little meaning or place in my life at that time so pray was definitely not a factor. it was not taught either at least not by my parents, there is never an exchanged of anything without getting sometime in return, with humans. If we believe otherwise then we fool ourselves. Pray helps now but only because of my commitment to God and my aspirations to reflect him. Just like swearing… had nothing to do with my faith or the fact that it was wrong just that it made me sound stupid and uneducated. unlike yourself i had no one to talk to. sex should not be about power but anything that brings or gives pleasure has a significance influence over our lives.
Very nice blog. I totally agree with your thoughts.